You’re Fat, not Phat. Tough Love? Or Just Cruel?

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January 4, 2014 by gregrabidoux2013

Hunger Games poster

I’m taking aim at you, Joan Rivers!

So, Joan Rivers the 80 year-old tart-tongued comedienne and acerbic hostess of television’s Fashion Police called out Hunger Games’ Jennifer Lawrence recently.

Seems the Queen of Mean took exception to Ms. Lawrence’s comments that shows like Joan’s Fashion Police only serve to reinforce an unhealthy and unrealistic image for women everywhere. Especially, Ms. Lawrence feels, for young girls who are all too willing to go on extreme diets to look like, well, glamorous celebrity-role models like Jennifer Lawrence. Yet, Ms. Lawrence, is determined to exploit her fame and use her global platform as a Dior spokeswoman to crusade against unhealthy body image.

J-Law pic

The decidedly non-large J-Law.

But, as Joan Rivers, who by her own admission, helps to keep the entire Beverly Hills plastic surgery industry afloat, claims, it’s actually hypocritical stars like Jennifer Lawrence who gain wealth and fame by the very media machinery they now attack. Or, as Rivers puts it “She (Lawrence) has been touched up more often than a choir boy at the Vatican.”

Leave it to Joan to roil not only fans of Ms. Lawrence everywhere but about 200 million Christians all in about 15 words or less.

Still, does the brutally bashing Rivers have a point?

Joan Rivers

I’m actually laughing you just can’t tell.

Does the fact that Lawrence won fame in the world’s most image-conscious industry, one built on the backs of many skinny not plump girls, one that seems to be allergic to curves of real women, hurt her own credibility on this issue?

Rivers contends that Ms. Lawrence had no problem with Fashion Police or any other media outlet when she was promoting her “Hunger Games” around the time of the Golden Globes. But, now that the press push is over, she feels “empowered” to bite the Hollywood hand that feeds her.

For her part, Ms. Lawrence recently told Barbara Walters that “It should be illegal to call someone fat on TV.” Rivers quipped that J-Law needed to “grow up.”

Well, before we declare a winner in this fat feud, let’s digest a few facts courtesy of the Center for Disease Control (CDC):

-Since 1980 the rates of adult obesity in America have doubled.
-There are $70 million adults or over 35% of our adult population who
are obese
-Since 1980 obesity among adolescents have tripled
-Type 2 Diabetes has risen dramatically among adults and continues to increase among children
-Only 25% of Adults eat recommended fruits and vegetables daily
-Less than 25% adolescents and children eat enough fruits and vegetables daily
-75% of our young adults in grades 9-12 don’t exercise enough
-Nearly $100 billion is spent each year in the US treating obesity related illness

Clearly, it’s not just how the media portrays and glorifies certain body images over others. Nor is it simply the names people call each other when it comes to body image and weight. However hurtful such names may be. We, Americans, do have a real and dangerously unhealthy lifestyle and habitual way of eating. And it seems to be getting worse.

Still, maybe there’s a lot to learn from another actress, one who was America’s small screen sweetheart long before Ms. Lawrence pulled back her first arrow. Alyssa Milano (Who’s the Boss, Charmed) was recently the target of fat jokes by comedienne and would-be actor Jay Mohr.

Ms. Milano tweeted that she felt bad that Mohr felt the need to “fat-shame” her and only wished the best to Mohr and his beautiful wife Nikki Cox.

Alyssa Milano

Ms. Milano, Charmed and Classy.

Within 24 hours the backlash against Mohr and his cruel jokes was severe and certain. He felt compelled to apologize profusely to Ms. Milano, calling her “extraordinarily beautiful inside and out” and added that what he said “simply was not funny and cruel.”

Check. And mate.

Seems bullies of all shapes and sizes need the fetid air of outrage, pain and injury to breathe. Refusing to provide them with such may just suffocate them with kindness.

As for Joan and Jennifer, well, maybe we could all resolve to “grow up” and stop calling each other names when it comes to body image. And refuse to buy into air-brushed reality.

And be sure and eat enough fruits and vegetables. Because Mom really did know best.

fruits and veggies

Remember us? Natural is really beautiful.

Peace. Resolve to be healthy and happy in 2014.

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23 thoughts on “You’re Fat, not Phat. Tough Love? Or Just Cruel?

  1. Susan S says:

    Calling someone out foe being fat is just cruel. And Joan Rivers??! How about calling he rout for being a walking silicone valley girl?

  2. Bethany says:

    I’m a J-Law fan BUT she is biting the media hand that has fed her greedy little celebrity face!

  3. Amelia says:

    Very funny but also sad post cuz the subject of name calling is always just pathetic…but you are right Alyssa Milano handled it best, be classy but firm!

  4. Deli Guy says:

    Joan Rivers is a cruel, mean B&**^$ BUT she is funny and J-Law is acting like an ungrateful little brat!

  5. RJ says:

    J-Law is HOT and Joan is old and not. end of story for me. Can’t wait until next Hunger Games!

  6. Shantel W says:

    Honestly I feel like these celebrities, such as Jennifer Lawrence, have the right to feel what they want but when you’re trying to explain that view to the public you should definitely learn how to put it into a non controversial way that will not rile everyone up.

  7. Briana R says:

    I completely agree with J-Law on the issue concerning media encouraging skinny and I do not feel she seemed to present the issue only to gain fame. I for one love me some J-Law so I could be a little biased but she was saying she wanted to be a role model for little girls while shooting hunger games not just after it was over. For anyone that watches Fashion Police knows Joan Rivers is just a big ball of plastic surgery that feels the need to talk bad about anyone who doesn’t dress to her approval and feels no guilt about it.

  8. Rebecca says:

    I agree with Jennifer Lawrence on the issue of having to fit the medias criteria for being beautiful, but then again I also believe that looks aren’t so much the problem with our society, it’s more like money and possessions. Joan Rivers seems like the girl in school who was made fun of constantly and now she feels she needs to have her revenge. Class would definitely be the best way to handle a situation such as this one, just as Milano did.

  9. Christi B says:

    Today people do have an extreme problem with being unhealthy and it is one that needs to be addressed. However, there is a certain way to go about things where you do not offend anybody or call them names. Rivers, in my opinion, is wrong for calling Lawrence out because she is not doing so out of concern. It was only said for intentional hurt which is how numerous cases of eating disorders get started.

  10. Jameeka M says:

    I love the way Milano handle the situation with Mohr calling her fat. It shows the class she has and I thought it was funny when she said he “fat shamed’ her. I also agree with Jennifer Lawrence she has the right to speak her mind because the media does encourage young women to be skinny. The world can be a cruel place with the harsh name calling. Joan Rivers is old and wrinkle she needs to retire and stop getting so much plastic surgery.

  11. Gabrielle W says:

    I definitely agree with Jennifer Lawrence on this issue. Girls, especially, in society today feel like they must be stick thin to be pretty, and that’s honestly not the case. It’s about time that someone takes a stand for it. The worst part about all of it is that even though Jennifer Lawrence isn’t the skinniest girl in Hollywood, she still is what I’d consider slender. This makes it even worse for girls in today’s society who are looking up to her and seeing that people are calling HER fat. What does that make them? Yes, obesity rates are going up, but what about other eating disorders such as anorexia and bulimia?

  12. Taylr T says:

    I really feel as though J-Law and Joan are both wrong in the sitatuion. Although J-Law is trying to say that she wants to exploit the media for creating the unhealthy portrayal of body image, she has to rememeber that she is also apart of the portrayal, thus making it kind of seem ridiculous that she’s even doing it in the first place. Joan Rivers is actually right when calling her out on it but the way she does it (typical Joan Rivers style) is just as unneccesary as the amount of plastic surgery she has done for what she calls “her face”. Overall, the media’s picture of what the average wholesome, american girl looks like is definitely not realistic on any platform. Its a shame that anyone even tries to follow what the media depicts in the first place.

  13. Michelle B says:

    I agree with Jennifer Lawrence that today society makes girls feel as if they must be extremely skinny to be pretty. It is good that someone is taking a stand even though, in my opinion, she is still pretty thin. However, for someone who wants to be a role model she should have handled Joan River’s comments better and been prepared for them.

  14. Sarah D says:

    Initially when I read this article I am drawn to support the opinion of Jennifer Lawrence. However, it is naive to make a statement such as she did and act like at no point in her career did she make decisions to enhance her appearance in order to impress others or get ahead. Everyone who lives a celebrity lifestyle has to be concerned with their appearance, after all, their seemingly unattainable perfection is what separates them from the rest of society. I agree that supporting a healthy lifestyle is a positive thing for out country, but demeaning another persons appearance is never going to be give a positive message whether it be criticizing someone for being fat or for looking fake. Overall, I believe that Alyssa Milano took the most effective approach to the criticism.

  15. Julie M says:

    It is a little ironic to see this debate in real life since in the Hunger Games series that made Jennifer Lawrence famous, fashion and real beauty and worth are similarly contrasted! It also reminds me of the comments made by Simon Cowell about Mandisa, a singer on American Idol, who was overweight, but did not allow cruel comments to change her self image, and ultimately chose for herself to adopt a healthy lifestyle. Healthy weight should be the debate, not fat, thin, or any other pejorative label. Julie

  16. Scarlett Taylor says:

    This whole debate is positively ridiculous. Joan Rivers says whatever comes to her mind with no regard to others feelings and opinions. While a comedian, Rivers can be crass and rude. Jennifer Lawrence is a wonderful example of what it means to lead a healthy lifestyle for young women. In America today, too many people eat McDonald’s for breakfast lunch and dinner and do not even know what a treadmill looks like. Joan and Jennifer should focus on stars who promote an unhealthy lifestyle instead of bashing each other. Fashion Police focuses on the extent to which stars wear clothes, which a celebrity should be prepared for when entering stardom. We should teach young men and women what a healthy lifestyle looks like and that should come from our peers, teachers and families. No offense to Jennifer Lawrence but while she may live healthy, she also has a personal trainer and a chef who cooks healthy meals for her. We need to be a little more realistic when talking to everyday people about living healthy.

  17. Scarlett T says:

    This whole debate is positively ridiculous. Joan Rivers says whatever comes to her mind with no regard to others feelings and opinions. While a comedian, Rivers can be crass and rude. Jennifer Lawrence is a wonderful example of what it means to lead a healthy lifestyle for young women. In America today, too many people eat McDonald’s for breakfast lunch and dinner and do not even know what a treadmill looks like. Joan and Jennifer should focus on stars who promote an unhealthy lifestyle instead of bashing each other. Fashion Police focuses on the extent to which stars wear clothes, which a celebrity should be prepared for when entering stardom. We should teach young men and women what a healthy lifestyle looks like and that should come from our peers, teachers and families. No offense to Jennifer Lawrence but while she may live healthy, she also has a personal trainer and a chef who cooks healthy meals for her. We need to be a little more realistic when talking to everyday people about living healthy.

  18. Anjelica J says:

    Name calling and ridiculing how another person looks is just absolutely mean, pointless, and makes the bullier look pathetic. Whether you are telling someone they are too skinny or too fat has the same effect on the person and the name calling can lead to someone starving themself or eating at an unhealthy level as an outlet. I believe Jennifer Lawrence has taken a stand on an major issue and hopefully will help others with thier body issues and help them to live a healthy lifestyle

  19. Allison M says:

    I honestly think that if Joan Rivers would look in a mirror then she’d realize that she can’t say anything about anybody, but that’s not the point. Jennifer is, as much as I agree with her, biting the hand that feeds her and Joan just needs to move on and quit fighting with people who are much more popular than her. It just makes her look jealous. We as a society place so much stock in how a person looks that we don’t ever care who they are on the inside. If that would change, we’d all be a lot better off and Joan would be out of a job.

  20. Nick C says:

    While I think that Ms. Lawrence’s negative feelings about how young girls going on extreme diets to look like glamorous celebrity-role models is correct and how we must crusade against unhealthy body image is great she is not the person to do it. She is a star and has make millions of dollars because of it and she never say a word about how bad it was went she was climbing up the ladder but now at the top her views have changed. And while I think that is crusade on body image is great everything she says now is undercut by her previous actions. Just find a better spokesperson, the concept is right just find someone who doesn’t cloud the issue.

  21. Casey Holcom says:

    Joan Rivers is just seeking attention I feel. Yes a lot of Lawrence’s pictures are photoshopped but I’m guessing she has no choice in the matter. If you want to stand up for a good cause, then good for her.

  22. Jacki G says:

    I read the Hunger Games series and was surprised to see Lawrence’s figure in the movies. In the books, Katniss is rail thin because she is starving because the Capital is keeping the food from all its people. I read an article that Lawrence knew she needed to be thin for the role, but she wanted to still be a good role model for other girls and wanted to be a lean and healthy kind of strong. I really applauded her for that decision. This movie was a huge production and Lawrence probably gained quite a few fans as Katniss Everdeen. I think Lawrence did a good job of portraying Katniss without becoming too slender.

    Touched up? Who cares? Most of Lawrence’s roles have been animated or other-worldly (Hunger Games and XMen) and the touching up is needed for her character to be more realistic.

    I get the idea that maybe Lawrence sounds like a hypocrite because she is preaching healthy body image and she is a bit slim herself. I do feel like she was slimmer during Hunger Games because that was what her role called for. However, I do applaud her for not taking it too far and still being healthy. How many other actresses have slimmed down substantially and blamed it on a role and not an eating disorder? And then later we find out that they have been struggling with some kind of eating disorder the whole time. Yes Lawrence is thin. But she is not unrealistically skinny. I think she is very down to earth. She falls on the red carpet and laughs at herself. She unabashedly proclaims her love for cheese its (my kind of girl!) and I hope she can continue to maintain her down to earth self as she gains more notoriety.

    As for Rivers, she is probably just jealous. She is old and is ALWAYS touched up. She doesn’t even have to be “touched up” to be touched up- even without makeup or photoshop she is all plastic and fake.

  23. Alisha F says:

    I thought about this post for a while and reread it a couple of times. I guess if we are picking sides, I would go against popular opinion and side with Joan. My feeling is in regards to targeting the show that Joan hosts. Her show is an entertainment show whose purpose is to get laughs. It is not meant to be taken seriously or to serve in any way as a model or example for how girls/women should look or act. I have watched the show on many occasions and cannot recall many (or any) times that they have made fun of people for being “fat”. The show is about fashion and poking fun (in a somewhat crass Joan style) at celebrities. I find the show to be very tongue and cheek and acts as a way of bringing celebrities down to reality and letting us “normal” people see no one is perfect….I applaud Jennifer Lawrence for wanting to promote healthy body images but I don’t think calling out television shows like Joan’s is the best way to get her point across in a meaningful way.

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